Obedience

I have been a little busy. You know, with the ridiculous school assignments. But I am getting used to it and am resigned to spending all of at least 2-3 days a week reading/writing/thinking. I would tell you about what I have been studying, but I'm bored just thinking about it and I don't want you to fall asleep at your computer.

We have almost survived the swim team season! There is one meet left- the Regional meet in Minneapolis. I only want to go because we might get to stop at Ikea. Alyssa is the only one of the girls swimming and she is dreading it. There has been so much whining and complaining about swimming lately, I have resorted to major bribes and pleading and occasional empty threats. Questionable parenting? Yep.

Alyssa and Todd at the state meet in Ft. Dodge

I read an article in our school newsletter recently about obedience- how kids should just obey without complaining, arguing, asking questions, etc. My kids are not obedient. I ask them to do something and even if they don't complain (which they usually do), they at least sigh or act annoyed that they have to do whatever it is. And they do this with other adults too- not as much- but I have seen it happen. Now that I notice it, it is really irritating me. I have seen them complain to their swim coaches, talk back to teachers, and whine at grandparents. Grrr. What am I doing wrong? I think I must not be mean enough.

So, after an internet search for "how to have obedient children" I learned 2 things.

1. There is an argument out there that obedient children= having your children taken advantage of by pedophiles, drug dealers, and generally horrible people and it is best to let your kids feel like they are the center of the universe and make all their own decisions, yet somehow remain "cooperative"
See this website http://www.ahaparenting.com/_blog/Parenting_Blog/post/Do_You_Want_to_Raise_an_Obedient_Child/

2. John Rosemond offers the best advice, still. And that is that obedient kids are the happiest. The problem that I have (and maybe some of you have) is that we have unknowingly created a world that revolves around our children. For instructions on how to change the bad behavior, read this: http://lacrossetribune.com/lifestyles/relationships-and-special-occasions/john-rosemond-obedient-kids-are-the-happiest-kids/article_43221b38-602b-11e2-97a2-001a4bcf887a.html

I don't think my kids are that bad, but I don't want them to be miserable adults. I will let you know if I make any huge parenting strides. If you are a coach/teacher/grandparent/adult around my kids, don't be afraid to make them obey you.

On a lighter note, here is a picture of my dog wearing socks.

Procrastination

So, I have started another semester of school and I am starting to think this was not a good idea. I have several things to do for the two classes I am taking, and they are hard. Too hard.  In the past, I could read with the radio on or write a paper in a day or two.  Right now I need complete silence just to understand what all of the words in each sentence mean, and then what all of that means put together. There's lots of googling going on.  

I don't like to complain as a habit (keep your comments to yourself Todd), but I need others to hear about how awful this is and then I will let it go.  So this week for class 1 (Health Care Delivery Systems), I have to participate in a discussion- with references in every post-lots of researching, take a "pretest", listen to a lecture and go to like 50 websites and read/watch things.  And find a health care related non-profit community agency that I can do some analysis on starting next week. Class 2 (Theories of Learning); write a "personal philosophy" of learning before having read any of my 150 pages of assigned reading which will end up being about a 3 page paper.  Questions are like this: "To what level, if any, do you believe explanation of learning is reducible?, What universal truths must the learner grasp?"  Participate in a discussion- same rules as class 1, lecture, websites,etc.  And next week I have to read an entire textbook.  It doesn't sound as bad as it feels. 

I have been distracting myself with cleaning today.  I even used a scrub brush in some places. 

Snowy Oliver

I think that's Alyssa in there.

Stuff we did on Christmas break

The blog of the boring is back!! No, this is not because of a New Year's resolution.  It is because of boredom and some well spent time on Pinterest, which has inspired all kinds of things for me to share with all of my (who am I kidding) loyal followers.

The children have been out of school for what seems like forever.  They have been staying up late as well, which is really cutting down on my "Emily time".  ("Emily time" is usually spent drinking tea and watching Bravo, but we aren't going to judge, right?)  But, we have gotten several things accomplished.  Obviously, there were Christmas celebrations on both sides of the family, Advent services at church, the Zion Christmas program, cookie baking, etc.  Then it was over. 

Thing #1: Box of kids stuff being held for ransom by mom.  I stole this idea from some genius mom on Pinterest.  Sick of picking up after your kids and getting nothing in return?  Hold their things for ransom and make them do chores to get them back.  My box includes an envelope filled with chores that are drawn if a girl wants an item back.  My favorite chores include: clean out a drawer in your bathroom, sweep the kitchen, clean all of the bathroom sinks, and fold the laundry that is in the dryer (because there is always a load in the dryer!).  The kids favorite chores include: do 20 jumping jacks while saying "I will never leave my stuff on the floor again", draw a picture of you cleaning your favorite room in the house, and you are free BUT THIS IS A WARNING! 

The BOX.

The best part of the BOX.

Thing #2: Fun new things in the girls' rooms.  This includes Todd-created chalk boards and wall stickers that were received as Christmas gifts. 

Sarah.  Just erased "I have the best mom in the whole world", or something like that.

Alyssa.  I don't wanna go to bed either!

Haley.  I am scared of the owl on the left.

Thing #3: Closet organization.  The least exciting of the things that were accomplished. Really not worth explanation.

So clean!

Thing #4: Homemade Science kit gift for nephew.  January is basically like second-Christmas around here.  There are LOTS of birthdays that we celebrate (including Alyssa's).  I have a truly great idea for my 12 year old homeschooled nephew Isaac this year (thanks again Pinterest!).  It's a science kit made from household items, with each experiment printed and put in a notebook and all of the supplies separated and labeled to correspond to the experiments!  It's so organized and cool!  And if his mom wants him to "learn" while he is experimenting, there is a website for each and plenty of space in his notebook to put pictures, notes, observations, etc.  I know- best aunt ever, right?

Cool notebook!

Stuff in the box- in separate baggies for each experiment. Big stuff is numbered.

Thing #5: Cooking stuff.  My 2 favorites were an emeals meal (discussed in an earlier post-see the link to the right) Garden Veggie Soup and a new taco filling (Pinterest) where you mix the meat with a can of tomato sauce, the seasoning, and a can of refried beans and bake the tacos.  Links: http://www.onegoodthingbyjillee.com/2012/11/how-to-make-hard-taco-shells-in-your-ovenplus-a-recipe-for-baked-tacos.html, www.emeals.com

School starts on Monday!! For all of us.  So this is probably the end of cool projects for awhile.  I'm out of ideas anyway.

Art projects

Last weekend we went to Woodbine.  Yes, you read that correctly and yes, I mean Woodbine, Iowa.  We went to church and then had dinner and then went to the coolest place ever- in Woodbine.  It's called Artisan and it's like an art gallery/store/workshop where there are people blowing glass in the back.  The kids were mesmerized.  I was mesmerized.  I always think I'm creative and sort of crafty, but then I see things that other, way more creative people have made and I realize I'm really not that fantastic.  There was jewelry, wall art, pottery, and amazing blown glass. 

Sarah watching glass blowing.  Mesmerized.

The woman working there (at 8:00pm!) wanted to know if the kids wanted to make something with clay.  Of course they did and what started out as a family project turned into three separate vases. 

Not only was this woman super patient, she is an ex-teacher and has great ideas to keep 3 little girls busy on a Saturday night.  She also had a bar in the back with wine and beer (Todd) and plenty of stuff to look at to buy (me).  We were all happy.  And a little messy.  It was awesome!! Go to Woodbine people!
Here is her facebook page:
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Artisan/111936408924466?ref=ts&fref=ts
She has classes and events and a bar.  In Woodbine.

Sighs of relief...

I don't know how other people celebrate when they accomplish things like finishing homework, the end of a fundraising event, a Saturday night, etc... But I am calling it "A sigh of relief" and celebrating with a glass of wine.  Today is the end of possibly the longest week ever- which included me catching a cold- and in my old age (33) all I have to entertain myself with is wine and my computer.  In the distance I hear the children (possibly arguing, but not telling me about it) playing the Wii.

Tomorrow I have to talk about the scrip program at church.  I don't mind talking in front of a group of people, but I feel like there will be questions.  Sometimes I get nervous when people ask me questions in front of a group of people.  So I am a little nervous about that.  It's ok to admit that, right?

We went to the library today (children's, of course).  I got a book called "Pocket Babies" about little tiny marsupials.  Because I thought they were cute and the kids would think so too.  I also got our favorite Dr. Seuss book "Six by Seuss".  It's a treasury of books; our favorite of which is "The 500 Hats of Bartholomew Cubbins" where Bartholomew is to take off his hat for the King as he passes but as he does another hat appears (500 times) in it's place.  It was first published in 1938 and makes the girls laugh really hard!  I had never heard of it before we checked out this book and it has some moral value.  Alyssa is starting a series about pets and Sarah is reading an easy "Little House" series.  Haley didn't come but she is reading "The Book Thief" which I recommended and she actually likes!  Sometimes mom is right.  Just sometimes.  We brought some very well behaved friends who are excellent readers also.

The Denison Dog Park Howl-oween walk was a success!  We had human walkers and dogs dressed in costume.  We had one human dressed in a dog costume.  We made some money.  We had fun.  People know more now about the park than they did before.  Goal met.  I got to work with people who are very talented and creative.

The girls have been into making keys into necklaces.  Some of these are actually keys to our house.  I realized this after it was too late. 

Our latest project: Key Necklaces-colored with nail polish

Sarah making her necklace key (it was her idea, she wanted me to tell you this)

Haley's key

Volunteerism and the Wedding

I have recently volunteered for everything.  I seem to have decided that not working means that I should be doing more volunteer activities.  I am now Todd's volunteer accounting specialist (if you know me well, you should be alarmed at this news), I am helping to organize a walk to raise money for a dog park in Denison, helping to start a scrip money program at the girl's school, and helping raise money for a basketball tournament.  All of this added to my regular volunteerism- doing the laundry, grocery shopping, cleaning, etc, has become quite a workload.  It is all stuff that I want to do, of course.  Here is what I have learned:

People will help you if you ask them to, so you should ask them.
People will give you things if you ask them and if you tell them why you need them.
Denison is full of awesome people.
I don't always have the best ideas, but sometimes I have an ok idea.
Volunteerism is way more fun than scholarly writing.

Oliver, who will be dressed up for the walk on Saturday.

Here are the links to my volunteer projects:

http://www.facebook.com/denisondogpark?ref=ts&fref=ts The walk is Saturday the 20th (this Saturday!!).  Registration is at 9:30.  It is a costume contest, so if you are coming, dress up your dog!! Check the website for details.

http://www.shopwithscrip.com/ This is the scrip program link.  If you buy a gift card through this website (there are also local businesses who participate and you can order with a paper order form- pick one up at Zion Lutheran or Our Savior Lutheran Churches), a percent of the money goes to Zion Lutheran School for new technology.  There is no catch- you get the full amount of the gift card- the companies are giving us a rebate!  To set up an account you have to use the code D47LBFL611L7 (Zion's account).  Orders have to be paid for by Monday's at 9 am and the cards will come to the Zion school office within a couple of days of ordering.  

The Zion basketball tournament is November 16th & 17th.  Teams from other Lutheran schools are invited to play in the games that weekend.  We are hiring refs for the first time this year and need to raise funds to help pay them and some of our other expenses.

So that's that!  They are good causes.

My cousin Joel got married last weekend in Columbia, MO!  Alyssa & Sarah were flower girls and danced all night long.  I am always a little worried that they are annoying people because they kind of latch on to people who pay attention to them.  But these same people kept saying how cute they were, so I think they were really ok with the constant chatter & dance requests.

The girls and the bride Katy.  Beautifulness!

Picture I took of Sarah.  I think it's pretty good.  Thanks to my photography instructor/friend Brad.

Homecoming

Last weekend was homecoming, and this was the first year we were really into it.  I think because Haley is at the middle school and there is a lot more purple-and-gold talk there than at Zion.  Todd took all three girls plus one friend each to the football game while I went to the Carroll High game (once a Tiger always a Tiger?)- because it was my high school reunion this weekend.  I didn't see much of the game (talking), but I did pay lots of attention to the band at half time, particularly the flag twirlers (me in high school) who now have 3 different flags to use during their routines!!  We had one flag and a seriously hideous leotardish outfit with lots of sequins.  I remember being cold a lot. 

Me (left) and my BFF Heidi in our flag twirling get-ups in 1997. Thanks for leaving your yearbook in my car Heidi!

I am working on several short papers for school.  Instructors call them "summaries", but really they want you to write like 3 pages.  I can summarize in way fewer words than that.  I also volunteered myself to work on a walk to raise money to create a dog park in Denison.  So- Denison residents with dogs- the Dog Dash will be held at Yellowsmoke on October 20th!  We are having a costume contest for the dogs since it's right before Halloween and what is cuter than a dog in a costume??  There will be prizes! More info to come...

Maybe you have noticed a link on my blog for Emeals?  Maybe not.  But it is one of my favorite time saving things on earth.  It is a meal planning site that gives you 7 meals a week with a shopping list broken down by what department the ingredient is in.  I don't use all 7 meals and sometimes I don't use any, but it is a great way to decide what to eat for the week if you are like me and are always struggling with what to make.  It costs $5 a month.  You can customize your plan to be Gluten free, low fat, low carb, etc AND then you can choose a store that you shop at- for now the only one around here is Wal-Mart.  I just use the Any Store plan.  Anyway, I love it.  www.emeals.com